love it when privileged folks screech “HOW ABOUT WE JUST BE NICE TO EVERYONE???”
as if we haven’t tried “nice”
as if we haven’t spent our entire lives bowing our heads, stepping out of the way, biting our tongues
as if we haven’t laughed at jokes that bit at us like sharp…
as soon as i let my nails get a little longer than usual my mom instantly goes WOW YOUR NAILS ARE SO DISGUSTING WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO TRIM THEM
like seriously I was just telling her about how i was finally getting some more confidence about the exam i have next month to get into college and she just deflected it with pretty much that exact phrase like she doesn’t want to see me happy
And I fucking keep my nails cleaner than she does
oh yeah and it came from an ascii art thing i did first
i drew a pokemon for a thing
but it’s unreadable
why is it that a lot of people have tumblr themes with ungodly tiny font
A boy and a girl run around on the grass at the park. The boy tackles the girl. The girl laughs. She gets up and runs away. She loves to run. He chases, she turns and they grab each other, tumble and land in a pile, giggling. After a few minutes, he tackles her again and she lands a bit hard. She is bigger and physical, but he more than holds his own in roughhousing. She pauses for a second. Then she laughs again; she’s still having fun.
Dad gets his attention, and says, “If she’s not having fun, you have to stop.”
He is two. He needs to hear this now, and so does she. And again, and again, and again, so that like wearing a helmet on the bike it is ingrained. —
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Parents, siblings, carers, cousins, teachers, tutors, mentors, aunts, uncles, etc, of young children: we have a chance to mold the gender relations of the future.
Such great advice.
I’ve done this with my kids since the moment they could each sign “more” and “all done” around 8 months old. More tickles? Or all done? More kisses? Or all done? More bouncing? Or all done?
When they’re old enough to play with others, you teach them to constantly check in with each other. Are you having fun? Or do you want to be done?
Is the shrieking laughter or fear? ASK.
Is the giggling from joy or nervousness? ASK.
Do you like being smacked with pillows? ASK.
Are you having fun wrestling? ASK.
And keep asking. What was fun five minutes ago might not be fun now.
Both kids know the moment something stops being fun, they need to stop. And they know that their wishes about what is fun and what’s not will be respected by their parents and by each other. They’ve known it since 8 months old.
This truly isn’t a difficult concept. It’s easy to teach it by example and it’s incredibly simple for children to do.
Are you having fun? Or do you want to stop?
Fucking teach it, parents. Please. ~JJ
YEP. ”Do you want me to tickle you some more?” “Does E. want you to hug him? You can’t hug him if he doesn’t want you to.” etc. It is VERY EASY.
People starving when tons of unsold food is thrown away globally because people couldn’t afford to purchase the food, that’s violence.
People dying and going bankrupt to pay for their healthcare, that’s violence.
People being evicted from their homes when there are more houses than there are houseless people, that’s violence.Capitalism is violence.
And before anyone says it, no the system isn’t broken, it was built this way.